{"id":271,"date":"2023-11-21T15:20:48","date_gmt":"2023-11-21T15:20:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/?p=271"},"modified":"2023-11-21T15:31:34","modified_gmt":"2023-11-21T15:31:34","slug":"why-is-everyone-better-than-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/index.php\/2023\/11\/21\/why-is-everyone-better-than-me\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWHY IS EVERYONE BETTER THAN ME?\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>BY DR. AK RANA<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>You are \u2018not less than anyone\u2019. No one is better than you. You might not<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>believe me, it\u2019s okay if you don\u2019t believe me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For you to decide on that, I will tell you a story<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>and you be the judge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There was a girl who came for studies in a<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>new city, away from home. She was topper of<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>her school and was sincere with her studies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There she met other students like her, she<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>was happy and excited. She dedicated all her<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>time to studies and then came the monthly<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>test.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She will surely secure a good rank, that\u2019s<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;what she thought. On result day, she couldn\u2019t<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>find her name in top 10, top 20 or even in top<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;50; her rank was 98.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was taken aback and started studying<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>more diligently. In next test, her rank was 87,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;still not within top 50.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She started looking at those who came 1<sup>st<\/sup>,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2<sup>nd<\/sup>, in top 10 or in top 20. She thought there<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>must be something special that makes them<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>better than her. They were<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>talking &amp; laughing while she was reviewing<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>her notes. She was shy to talk to strangers so<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>she just used to observe them and wonder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In next test, she came under 50 with a rank of<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>46. She was happy but not so happy. She<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Studied and studied but every time she used<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>to commit silly mistakes or she used to have<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>time management problem. After reviewing<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>the whole paper, she used to write down all<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>the mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Next time her rank was 34, but she repeated<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>the same mistakes and was unhappy about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many things had changed in her life and all<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>that she could see was study and study and<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>nothing else. She started feeling low and sad,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>when she used to see a group of students<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>smiling &amp; laughing, she thought she must be<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>wrong somewhere and all of them were better<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>than her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One day one of them came to ask her a<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>question and she solved it. They talked about<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>some other stuff and without even realizing it<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>she found herself laughing. It\u2019s been days<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>since she felt so happy, soon they become<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She also started talking to other students,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>days were all good. In one of the tests as she<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>was ill she couldn\u2019t prepare much, but she<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>was confident and relaxed; she did<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>surprisingly very well, came 1<sup>st<\/sup> in her batch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She decided to just study adequately not too<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>much to score well. She was weak in a topic<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>but saw her friends doing good in it, so she<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>changed the way of learning as that\u2019s how<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>others do and they all were better than her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Silly girl, they were not doing well overall, it<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>was just that particular topic. It was not study<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>or her way that was pulling her back, but too<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>much stress that was coming in her way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What she wanted was a boost in her<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>confidence that she was lacking. It<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>was result of her hard work that she scored<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>well, but she changed the way of her<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>studying\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Soon she found syllabus increasing at a fast<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>pace, their ways were not working for her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was worried, puzzled and anxious. She<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>was always stressed to complete the ongoing<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>syllabus &amp; to revise the previous one for the<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>upcoming test.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter how much she tried, paper was not<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>the same anymore. Her rank kept on<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>increasing, soon she was out of 100.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She tried to think what she used to do? What<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>toppers do? What others do? She was lost\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She started hating learning or studying, tears<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>used to come out when she used to look at<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>books. Her dreams were getting blurred in<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>front of her, as she ran to chase them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She distanced herself from her friends. All her<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>hobbies, likes and dislikes disappeared. She<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-pale-ocean-gradient-background has-background\">was no more afraid of dark, her life scared her<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-pale-ocean-gradient-background has-background\">more. I think having something to fear is also<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-pale-ocean-gradient-background has-background\">a leisure for someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One day she was eating all alone when<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>a girl came to join her. With a smiling face she<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>asked \u201cHow do you study? I am never able to<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>make in top 200, you see.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"820\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image-2-820x1024.png\" alt=\"why is everyone better than me?\n\nHalleys clininc\" class=\"wp-image-272\" srcset=\"https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image-2-820x1024.png 820w, https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image-2-240x300.png 240w, https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image-2-768x959.png 768w, https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image-2-600x749.png 600w, https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image-2.png 940w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 820px) 100vw, 820px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Is that the end? No way\u2026there is more to this<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>story, don\u2019t reach to an answer so early.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I will tell you the rest in the next blog. If you<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>have your own views or a story to share, write<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>in comment section or reach to us<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00a0halleysclinic@gmail.com \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>also read <a href=\"https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/index.php\/2023\/07\/15\/being-a-student\/\" title=\"BEING A STUDENT?\">BEING A STUDENT?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>also read <a href=\"https:\/\/halleysclinic.com\/index.php\/2023\/08\/25\/how-to-be-happy\/\" title=\"HOW TO BE HAPPY?\">HOW TO BE HAPPY?<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You are \u2018not less than anyone\u2019. No one is better than you. 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